Originally Posted By: mgm32

I don't mean to get too "personal" here and I wish I could find a way to talk "offline" with you about this via email...but do you struggle incorporating DB with your faith? I do at times because many of the methods call for me doing the opposite of what is intuitive or even what I feel like my faith would have me do. I can say I've forgiven her. I know that much and yet the pain still remains. So sometimes when I want to see how she is doing, particularly now that she is injured, and I CHOOSE not to, I feel like I'm not necessarily "doing the right thing."


It can be a little tough to balance because it's counter-intuitive. You can still love your W, and you are called to do so unconditionally. I think we may be being shown right now how it feels to love someone and not necessarily receive it back. You can pray for her. I actually prayed with my W before she moved out. TBH - I think it got under her skin a little bit. I think my W and your W have both rejected their faith, at least to some extent.

I think in your case, you can ask your W about her injury, but let her be the one to initiate contact. You are showing her love by caring, but at the same time you are showing her love by giving her space.


BITS
Me:46 / W:47 / M:19 / T:21 / S13
Bomb#1: 5/8/2008
MC: 5/2008 - 4/2010
Bomb#2: 2/10/2011
W moves out 5/7/2011

'With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.' - Matt. 19:26