So on the 'passive aggressive' thing and 'not asking'. I am reading 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' and it's a revelation. As a 'Nice Guy' I see my patterns of never being able to divulge my needs clearly, so it won't put me in a situation to be disappointed, but then when my 'unspoken contract' is not fulfilled I become resentful.
There's likely some awareness/insight you might gain from checking out that book.
Me-44, W-38 S12, D10 --- EA: 3/20/11 Bomb: 3/25/11 "I'm waiting til June to 'do something'" statement from W: 4/26/11 Still in same house, in same bed