Today was rough. He was emailing me quite a bit at the same time I was reading some of the links above and realizing how much work I have to do on me, and the denial I have allowed myself to be in.
My DB coach suggested I contact an IC and I did that today, to schedule an initial consultation
Tonight I am going to Al Anon and on my way home will stop at the store to pick up Co-Dependent no more.
Baby steps.... but in the right direction I am proud of myself right now, which feels nice.