My feelings are changing...sitch isn't

[tadpole1025]

Thanks again everybody.

Yes. Yep. Yeah. I know.....

Perhaps I do need to read the Pursuit and Distance thread again.

In talking with my husband, they are lost and confused in a storm of confusion and despair. They don't know what the hell they're doing, thinking, saying etc.

Really? She seems awfully damn sure of herself.

You asked for this convo and you got it. Just know that if it had been a different day or time the words from your W may have been different because MLCer's are emotion driven.

I know. I did it to myself.

Your W had only one day to process what you two had talked about the day before. Why, with all you've learned, did you feel that you had to go and push it the very next day?

I guess because I was thinking that our conversation the day before was good. Like an idiot, I opened it up again.

It makes me wonder if you are reading what is posted to you. I know that I have asked you questions that you haven't answered.

I do read them Mach. Sometimes 2 or 3 times. If there was a question that I didn't answer, it must be because I missed it. It was not deliberate.

You not even just letting her, you're driving her to hurt you more, because rather than saying simply that she's still going through the divorce, which is bad enough, you're pushing her to say more specific hurtful things.

Yeah. I guess I was just hoping that our talk we had sunk in a little bit. I asked for it and I got it.

There is just so much that I still don't understand. She says that she wants to work on our frienship even after the D. Isn't that sort of cake eating?

Should I just let this thing happen without putting up a fight for my marriage?

It is funny sometimes. I know she is not the same. I know she is confused. I know she is crazy. I know she has issues. I just want to help her before she does anymore damage. Believe me, she has done a lot.

Does she even realize what she is doing?

I wrote her a very nice email last night. I did not send it. I'm guessing I shouldn't right? I'll just get a response that I don't need to hear right?

This MLC crap (if that's what it is) just blows.

I thought about reminding her that it only took about 2 weeks for her to go from wanting to marry me again to joining an internet dating site.

I wish she could see how everything looks to us normal people.

So I'm just supposed to let this thing happen? If I act like I'm okay with it, doesn't that just give her more justification?

Tad