I am seeking counceling now. I did not the first time. I have figured out the root of the problem finally and I think I should be able to fix it with couseling. My H refuses to go to couseling. I am going to focus on myself and the kids wit the counseling and also ask how to help my H though his attachment with the OW who is still in his office and who he misses and has obvious feelings for still. It hurts but do you really think it is possible to recover a second time? He thinks he is just too bad for me that he has violated our marriage too much and that there is no way back. He is sinking in a deep depression. He never wanted a divorce. He wanted her to not have to think about our problems. She was his escape. He still wanted me too. he is military so he was going to have her until we left here in 2012 and then be done with it..that was their plan. Then they got caught by her husband. How do I fight the felling he still has for her and fight his depresion too? I also have to control my demons over what he did and he is not doing any of the things I need to get over it. This is a giant mess!
