I'm hot and cold on how much leeway to give...part of me wants to just get her out so I can move on and part of me wants to be as warm and compassionate as I can be to let her see what she is walking away from.
Once she is out - really "out" - she will either adapt to the situation and force herself to make the best of it so she doesn't lose face, or she will realize she really screwed up and come to the bargaining table. I'm OK with the former and not sure what I would do with the latter.
But I'm done trying to predict the future.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS