Just a thought here , and I hope you don't mind.....
The OW....
Often , when we go through something like this, we seek that external validation, mostly to know that we aren't as terrible as we have been accused of.
The normal human instinct is, that we seek that from the opposite sex.
Things , because of the situation , can easily become out of hand , and we end up actually getting that from a person that we ultimately do not want it from....
But because of our own hurt , betrayal , loneliness, etc , we allow ourselves to fall into that trap.
We end up 'connecting' with a person that has seen similar pain in their life , and that becomes a lifeline from them.
What usually happens, is that what we end up taking from that person, is the emotional connection that we seek from our wayward spouses.
Is what you are getting from OW, what you want from your wife ?
What voice do you "hear" when she speaks ?
This is one fo the reasons that the failure rate for second and third marriages is so freakin high...
We start something before we are healed fully from the past.
Is that fair to the OW ?
Better yet, is that fair to YOU ?
I know this story well my friend , as many here have also known.
Please consider that innocent people will get hurt...
I will also pass along something, the way it was put to me.....
