"this is why some of us believe so strongly that the time for boundaries is EARLY, not later on"
Adultery is wrong...
And in our pain...
Our desire to keep our S...
We are too ready to overlook the lies...
The cheating...
The ultimate disrespect...
Forgive without accountability or consequence...
And we allow them to place ALL the blame on us...
Sorry, doesn't work that way!
Boundaries First... M second!
SBH - Please don't use my thread to promote your philosophy on this stuff. I get your position on all of it. By all means, start a new thread so it can be discussed.
I don't mean to be a jerk about this, but I'm tired of being told how to define my W's R with OM... and I'm tired of being told that I am weak for handling my situation the way that I've handled it.
I have a different view of things... MY situation. That's all.
The reason that I am responding this way SBH is because your post is more of a sermon on adultery, how it is wrong, and how it shouldn't be put up with, than it is an opinion on how I should proceed in my particular sitch...
Which I believe that you stated in your previous post... 'MOVE ON'...
So I get it. But I don't think that you fully understand my particular situation or my position on all of this.
Thanks, Denver
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thanks Jack... but maybe we could debate the merits of both on a different thread. I'm in no mood to debate it here.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
