You say no you aren't a victim, and your BF isn't. Sorry, you speak like a classic victim.
Lila,
You have had this pointed out by many many people on here, which tells me I am not the only one seeing this, people who have been around here a long time. People who have identified these things in themselves and actually done something about them.
Every time someone posts something you don't want to hear, you ask them to stop or accuse them of being mean.
You have driven a lot of people who could actually help you away from your thread.
I have nothing more to offer because you simply don't want to hear it.
I commend the others who are going to choose to stick around and attempt to get through to you, although I don't believe it will happen.
I hope that someday, you can take the time to see in yourself what others see in you and actually have the desire to do something about it...
Good luck...
and Gabby, you have really come a long long way...
Cat, like I keep asking everyone - specifics help.
I'm not sure what I'm a victim to. I am looking for a way out.
GM's theory is that BF is being "mean" b/c I'm being a biotch or whatever, but then wouldn't the same logic apply that I'm being a biotch b/c BF is eternally mean?
That's exactly what we talk about on here - NOT to do. Not to play blame games (my exH was the reason for my troubles, etc).
So I'm just working on specifics right now - one is feeling less powerless, having more boundaries, and coping and handling stress better.
I still welcome your input.
So if I just take from this "well, I guess I'm being a victim." What good does that do me? How is that helpful? Where do I go with that?
