Okay, I am going to take KD's post seriously - even if it is just on "faith" - but I was about to post this as an example of those boundaries I was talking about earlier.
BF is on a cursing spree in front of D and it is upsetting me too .. .he is like "the f-in f-er just took this sh*t and f-ed with something." and I'm like, 'Oh geez." and kind of duck to show him that sounds harsh.
I say, "oh ugh" - like please in front of D.
But he keeps doing it.
What do I do? Say? How do I behave?
Or, if I spend an entire meal feeding D rather than myself and kind of "managing" her while letting him eat and then steal a piece of steak from my plate and put it in my mouth (a big piece b/c I'm not able to cut it in small pieces and eat gracefully) and then BF makes snorting sounds and says "mommy is a piggy" -
Do I ignore it? Say "that's not nice"?
I want to do these kinds of things in less reactive ways - to BF - to my family. But I don't want to be "mean" but I also want to be firm -
I think this will help me overall feel less angry and abused and lash out less (though I realize there is a LOT more to it than that) but maintaining these boundaries feels like it might help.
