Regarding my last post, thank you CS, Karma and KF. I truly appreciate the quick responses. I started out wanting to write my response e-mail to "prove" certain things to my wife - that I'm alright with her choice, that I'm acknowledging her concern, that I'm strong, that I'm funny, etc. But thanks to y'all, I realize it was too much fluff. I want to so much to communicate my changes to my wife, that at times I forget about the basic DB/Dr rules.
I was eating dinner with our son at the dining table, and he looked up at a professional-taken family photo I have up on the wall of my wife and I, and him when he was about a year and a half.
What our son said next proved, sadly, how his concept of family and relationship with his mom and dad has taken a huge quantum shift.
What did he say, you ask? Well, he looks at the photo, points at me, and asks:
Kaffe - There is truth in what you say, bro. Country - Could you explain a little more of what you were saying? I'm not all that smart, so I need a dumbed-down version.
UPDATE 7/26 - 6pm Background: My sister and BIL are coming from DFW to see us beginning Thursday till next Monday (4 days). I had informed my wife some time back that I would like to have our son for all those days; she agreed. Two things to note:
1. This will be the longest she's gone without seeing our son. 2. If y'all recall, she took him to TN for a full week for ID4 celebrations with her family.
So, yesterday when my wife came to pick our son up, and while strapping our son into his car seat, she suddenly asked if our son will be spending the night with me tomorrow (which is my designated night with him anyway). I matter-of-factly replied, "Yes, it is."
Not going to pick her brain over this, but I'm more interested in MY response. My wife has been, in the past, flexible with giving an extra day here and there, such as on Father's Day, knowing that it would be special. At the end of the day, I know I handled the situation right, but I wonder if I could've been more considerate (like let her have extra time with our son) in light that she won't be seeing him for a number of days and going through the crazy stress of studying for Boards.
All that would have been was an attempt by you to curry favor with her, hoping that it would improve your situation.
It would be pandering.
In another time, another place, might have been a cool thing to do. In the freshness of the separation, and given the nature of your attachment and pursuit of your wife, it would have smelled all wrong to her.
Though she probably would have accepted.
Because she IS detached.
Don't second guess every decision you make and weigh it against how your wife feels about it.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
This time I'm glad I just stuck to it. I guess I was taken aback by her question in the first place. I mean, she knows the schedule, so why ask? I think she was fishing or something.
