also, do I get this in writing the agreement we come to? Obviously H is no longer a man of his word and could very easily decide not to do what he says.
Maybe others will chime in with different opinions, and I could be wrong, but I don't think getting it in writing that is not legalized will be worth the paper it is printed on.
That said, just keep a close eye on it so if he stops giving you what you've agreed upon, you can take legal action if need be.
Did your L consult give you a figure of what C/S would be if either of you decide to pursue a legal sep. or divorce?
He did not. He did say he doesn't bother with LS either. Very few do he said.
H is so into himself that him remembering to put money into an acct just seems like too much for him. And, it seems just another way I may have to contact him and I don't want that. I of course broke NC after over 6 weeks because of this money stuff. If I hadn't would he of called me? Doubtful.
Legally, SA is probably right, but it's still a good idea. Potentially allieviates confusion and "he said/she said", and who knows, you might be able to use it later...
I wish I'd started getting things in writing much earlier...
Good luck, and keep your focus! A public place is a good idea IMO because it might help you keep from crying etc.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
SO, now if he asks about kids or me-like how we are- do I play it up and say great! Or, good but we/they miss you? I will not bring up anything but finances -thats my plan. But, wondering how to handle any questions.
