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Ok, KD, but why do the "believe in vows" 50% seem to marry the "not so much" 50% so often? Perplexer!


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lol... now THAT is a life mystery that will make us HUGE bucks when we figure that out... laugh

You know the drill... stay strong... grin

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I know how you feel DG, my roommate was the witness at me and my H's court house ceremony. I prayed a lot over the past few months and had to deal with her trying to get me out of the house. Atleast your H's roommate doesn't have borderline personality disorder. Praying for strength,patience, and guidance has helped me get through the past few months. Going to church every sunday and Galing. Like you I still love my H and not ready to stop fighting for the time, sweat,blood, and tears that are invested in this M.


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Journaling---

Rough night last night. Dealing with 2 separate issues with my kids that left me emotionally drained. Being a single parent is rough sometimes.
I wish they would realize that the decisions I make on their behalf are because I love them and want what's best for them, not because I'm trying to "ruin their life."


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I'll give you my W's address gabby smile


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"I'd gladly shake the crap out of her if you wanted:)"

And while you're at it...


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Bomb#1: 5/8/2008
MC: 5/2008 - 4/2010
Bomb#2: 2/10/2011
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Originally Posted By: gabbysmom23
[quote=DelinquentGurl]
I have been thinking about this a lot lately. There seems to be more men than women on here than when I first came on 3 years ago.

It comforts me that men actually do care about their M's and would fight to have their wives back. I honestly didn't think there were men like that in this world. I always thought that men would just move on.

My view was naive, as I married my only real R in my life at 24, and well, he is the King of D-bags. Actually, that is his nickname amongst family and friends.

I hope the next guy I get serious with is one of those stand up guys who actually care enough to want to put the effort in to make it up.

There are some guys on here where I would love to shake their W's and say "how can you let a man like this go?"

Now, if the God's would just align us with someone on our same level....



I couldn't agree more! I think their W's are crazy to walk away from the men they are becoming.


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Can you please call my wife!!

Seriously - I think the key words are the "men they are becoming". My wife cannot see beyond the past - I can only hope that one dayu she lets it go.


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I think that is a struggle for everyone in general, letting the past go.
It applies to everything and pretty much any relationship.

I told my IC that I don't want to sit on her couch every week and rehash my past. I want to acknowledge my mistakes, and learn tools to ensure the past will not repeat itself.

Today was a pretty good day. Every time I find my mind wandering, I picture girl's list about the things she can/cant control.
I try my hardest to concentrate on the "can" side.


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