well LilaGirl, if you read back on your own threads, its as if everything you do or feel or think is of the utmost priority and all of life depends on it. while at the same time, everything your BF does or thinks, or your family does, is always wrong, with bad intentions, and stupid and a complete waste of time.
your running to 2 stores to buy the right squash is much more important than your BF learning to sew. his learning to weld is a waste but your tasks are not.
but to BF what he chooses to do is important. your mother helping you is her helping you, her reason for being an hour late was important to her. whether you agree, with BF or mother, or not is meaningless.
and this attitude permeates everything, and is very destructive.
"How do we remain loving to those around us who hurt us regularly, who demand of us unfairly, who behave badly to us without becoming martyrs." - this is a good question to ask yourself about yourself.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".