You make a very good point indeed KD and am amazed at what you mention your wife denies - I am finding it so difficult to understand how people can deny something when there is proof to the contrary.
It has been almost 3 weeks since I discovered the letter, emails and cards and I still just feel kind of empty - apart from when I discovered them I haven't cried and I just feel like I hate H - yes he says he definitely wants us to "grow old together" (his words)but other than that he is acting like nothing is wrong. I guess you're right and it is all down to me to decide if I can "let it go" and move on. I honestly don't know how to do it - it seems like a huge mountain right in front of me.
