Thank you Jack and Cadet. I think I overcompensated as a 180 because I am still so confused. He complains that he has felt that he couldn't ask me to go away with his friends because he of his fear of a bad reaction. So I guess I was trying to be upbeat, but I think that may have been wrong. It didn't feel right. Sorry if I am not seeing what you are trying to point out Jack. Definitely feeling like a toddler learning to walk.
The trip that was sprung on me yesterday does not feel good to me, and I am trying to wrap my head around it. Although it is technically a work retreat, I know the crowd and they are quite the party crowd. My coworker was sitting with me when the brochure was sent to me yesterday for a calendar check, and she said "oh he's not bringing you, huh"...ouch that hurt. There was a paragraph discussing bringing companions.
Thanks for the links Cadet. I am going to spend some time on them this morning before work. I have read DR and also had 2 coaching sessions with a DB coach. The ups and downs of this are so confusing that I still feel like I am white knuckling this. Your advice and links are so helpful
