Still can't figure out why she hates me so frickin bad.
Tad, I know you've been told this before. MLC=confusion. Their actions make no sense because they don't make sense. You CANNOT understand crazy. You will become crazy trying to understand. STOP TRYING TO UNDERSTAND. It will not help you in ANY WAY.
In talking with my husband, they are lost and confused in a storm of confusion and despair. They don't know what the hell they're doing, thinking, saying etc. They don't make sense. Period.
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W: I thought about all that we talked about yesterday and all that has happened since Sept. (FTR-I didn't know she was leaving until Oct.) Also all that has happened good and bad over the last 26 years. I will not be delaying the divorce. Sorry.
Again, you are dissecting her every statement. She is confused and their memory is crap. She is lucky she remembered the general season that things happened. My H can forget entire conversations in less than 24 hours. It can be maddening.
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M: Ok. Thank you. Can I ask why you can't forgive me for whatever I did?
Initiating relationship talk. BIG no no. Consider this a 2 x 4
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W: I told you a month ago that I forgive you.[/b] (Then what is the problem?)
More wife talk dissection. How is this working out for you Tad?
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M: Can I call and talk to you really quick?
W: What about?
M: Our conversation yesterday.
ANNND...MORE relationship talk.
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W: Stress. This whole mess has affected my health in many ways. I need it over. I have practically bled to death over the stress. My stomach has been upset since we talked yesterday. I've had a headache since we talked yesterday. My hair falls out from stress. I can't sleep over it. I could go on. I skipped bootcamp today because I was just so tired.
How are these talks working out for her Tad? The more you dissect her and push her to talk, the more you continue to drive her away.
Originally Posted By: tadpole1025
Sure would like to know why she hates me.
Until you stop asking, you won't find the peace you're looking for.
(((Tad)))
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
