Not good, although it sounds like you did a good job of DBing the convo. At least from what you've posted.
So, plans pretty much remain the same. You're best bet is LRT which includes further GALing and detaching...
A general rule of thumb at this time is, if your W wants the D and you do not, then let her do all the leg work.
If and as it progresses, only do what is absolutely necessary within time constraints. You do not want to look like you are stalling, but in the same time, you are "making sure that everything is satisfactory and conducting due diligence".
This offers you further time to continue to become a better man that only a fool would leave.
Not easy... the whole reason you are here, from beginning to end, never is...
But if you want to work on yourself and possibly save your M in the process, this is the path that you are on...
