Just Be

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Denver,

I agreed with her that I don't, but that it is also a difficult situation bc she will have to sign a 12 month lease somewhere.

I told her that I understand how she feels, but that it seems like she is trying NOT to want to work on things. I told her that I have suggested retrouvaille several times, but she refuses to consider it.

That I am willing to be patient, but that I have to think about my own happiness too.

"I"m sorry that I made you feel like that for one second. But I can't continue to live like this."

But's tend to destroy all the words in front of them. It invalidates them.

Just pointing it out, not beating you down.

Or lessens them...

We did kiss but nothing else.

We kissed.

I'm not sure I'd be ok with my wife kissing another man...even if they did nothing else.
I wasn't ok with it when all they did was kiss. Just saying.


Brother, in some ways the OW is going to be a distraction from your wife that will help you...its going to cost you, it'll cost her.

She'll help you dettach and go dark, she already has...or rather, you thinking of her has allowed you to do so.

And when you truly leave your wife alone?

Let her make up her own mind...well man, I think your going to see what I mean about cost later.

It hurts.

You're not your own man, as super fly cool as this lady might be, she is a crutch for your desire to feel needed, wanted and attractive.

You're already comparing her to your wife.

You're short changing this woman, unless she is ok with that, and this is nothing more than physical desires being met.

The stove is hot Denver.

I'm not juding you, pitfalls and pain is all. I'd spare you that, and the guilt from pain you make.