If things take a turn for the worse for me, i will be much happier knowing that i did all that i could for my family and that includes my wife.
I would advise you, though, to set some conditions (like going to AA or rehab) before she comes home. The best thing for your kids is if their mom gets the help she needs to get sober. And if there is any way you can find the time to go to some Alanon meetings, it may help you.
Also - if she sounds like she really does want to get a grip on her drinking - this sounds bad, but maybe telling her about your diagnosis would be the push she needs to get sober.
