First of all, your counselor hasn't seen HIM, and is only getting your side of the story - which we have seen here, may tend to be a bit biased. Be careful of therapists who only tell you what you want to hear.
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What if you are torn about DBing for someone who therapists say is "ambivalent" about relationships and can't give you what you need and doesn't "care enough to do anything about it."
I would hesitate to say he doesn't care enough. He's burned out and exhausted by your mood swings and erratic behavior. Plus he's showing signs of classic depression himself, above and beyond your current situation. So far, when you have actually managed to keep a lid on it, to validate and act in a pleasant reasonable way, he has shown signs of responding in a good way. I'd be willing to bet that if we could blink and all your anger issues were gone and you behaved nicely to him all the time, you might suddenly find out what a pleasant guy he could be. To paraphrase a famous quote: "BE the change you want to see in your relationship"
You don't have to decide today whether the relationship with him is worth saving. It may or may not be in your power to do so anyway. But the spiritual practice of DBing will improve your future interactions with him AND any potential future mates, so just keep doing the work.
As for your mom - she's doing YOU a favor, it is inappropriate for you to be whining that she didn't come early enough or stay late enough. She doesn't owe you.
