I guess one of the dilemmas, and I guess this gets talked about all the time on the boards, but I'm not really sure how it's handled in DB is ...
What if you are torn about DBing for someone who therapists say is "ambivalent" about relationships and can't give you what you need and doesn't "care enough to do anything about it."
I know - you take care of you. Which is what I'm doing.
But isn't part of DBing, stopping the D from happening or healing a R? I guess we can only heal us? I just feel like - yeah, I guess I have to do this work anyway, regardless of BF - but I just keep getting so torn - I want him in my life, but not in the shape he's in now. Not when he's blaming all his ambivalence on me and not owning stuff and I have to keep soaking up all his negative energy. That's where I get a little stuck.
