There is nothing wrong with being a nice guy, who stands up for themselves. Who...isn't nice, when it is warrented.
Not saying go Hulk.
Not saying turn into the dickish.
Maybe not so nice...
You DON'T have to smile when you're eating a crap sandwhich, nor do youo you have to ask for more or ask her if you can get her dry cleaning when your done with lunch.
In DR your told to stop saying "I love you's" because it reminds them that they (currently) "Don't love you" or not the way they should.
So if Acts of Service is your love language...your way of showing: "I love you"...
Tone it back.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
