Must be completely mindful of what Jack said above ^^^^^^^^^^...
TOO much and she may see it as pursuing... she might LIKE that, but it serves your M little if she doesn't have to put in a little effort to work on the M as well. Otherwise YOU get to live in an M where YOUR needs are not being met.
Because you BOTH have contributed to where your sitch is, right now.
Might be worth reviewing Chapters 3 and 4 of DR. Knowing what YOU want and ASKING for what you want.
Because every M is a balance between giving and receiving...
Receiving is NOT taking...
Taking: "I want flowers every week, I actually DESERVE flowers every week, so give me flowers."
Receiving: "I SOOO love getting flowers every week and I SOOOO appreciate that you are considerate enough to do that, knowing you could choose not to."
My W is a taker. She has expressed MANY times over the past year that she DESERVED so much more from me. Without acknowledging that which I DID for her, for the kids, for the home... for the family...
Be clear about what you would LIKE and want, but NOT what you think you deserve...
In the same token, it does appear that your W appreciates that you took the lead and made plans and spent time with your W... that she does not feel she DESERVED it...
