...she may have invited me to go the beach, had I not responded with having "work to do."
I wasn't going to touch on this one to see if you would have figured it out, although I'm glad that it was brought up.
The only thing that I would add to this is, in what way can this be a 180?
In my sitch, "I have work to do" was my "more of the same". So if my W were to bring up something like this, it would be in my best interest to let her know I had no set plans. Leaving the door open for an invite if she asked, and NOT asking if I could tag along.
So what would "I have work to do" been in your sitch? More of the same or a 180? And... did it help / hurt / or have no effect.
Originally Posted By: Handler
I hope I'm not grasping at straws by viewing our interactions as positive signs...
Always accept positive as positive... simply have no expectations around them. IOW, do not think the positives are signs to move towards. They are just... positive and figure out how to keep doing what you are doing to keep getting positives...
Originally Posted By: Handler
She called and left a message today wanting to know if I delivered the kids to their childcare, and also to ask my opinion about another issue. I'm going to call back but I'm making sure at least an hour goes by before I do.
Here's something that my W has always done with me and continues to do, although not so much... she would task me to do something, especially around the kids, then she would follow up to make sure I did it, generally to see that I performed according to her expectations.
Adding in the "other issues" would be my W's way of making appear like she wasn't checking up on me, because the REAL REASON I'M CALLING is for something else...
Anyhow, again the question is, is this "more of the same" from your W and is you calling her back (even delayed) more of the same? IOW, do you need to call her back within some time frame, or can her other issues be dealt with at some later date?
Originally Posted By: Handler
I'm very concerned about losing some of the momentum that seems to have started after 2.5 months of 180 work. Telephone and email contact will be sporadic at best for me after I leave.
How do I approach this and keep DB'ing?
Just appreciate that all of your hard work will not be forgotten. Going away after having a period of good interactions and positive results will go a long way to making the time away an opportunity for your W to realize what she's missing when you ARE gone...
It is likely your W will connect with you a good number of times while you are gone. She will have some "reason" or another to contact you. Just be sure that those interactions remain positive...
