Not trying to be too harsh here. But, really, everything here with your feelings is connected to someone else, your mother, your sister, your BF. You still have to work on owning your own issues, anger and stress.
I had what one would say is a rough life. i won't get into the details, but yes, perhaps I should be angry at the world, blame everything that happened to me on that. But I don't. Sure, I am sure it has affected me, probably led to my decision to marry H when it wasn't the best choice in the grand scheme of these things, but I won't hold anger and resentment towards that being my life and it's everyone elses fault I feel the way I do, or my life turned out the way it did. Actually I did pretty damn good given my circumstances. I take credit for that (and my dad gets a alot of credit)and any failures I have had, I also take credit for.
You have to stop being a vicitim and stop blaming your anger on everyone else.
GM -
It sounds like you put a lot of yourself in my experience. That may not be helpful to me right now.
So I'll clarify - for others reading this-
I am not a victim.
My family are not causing me to feel this way.
I can own my emotions and work on them.
What I'm asking for - just to clarify since it seems there might have been some misunderstanding - is what, then, do you do with a family who put all their issues on you?
My sister - my mother who says she can "help" and then gets all passive aggressive on me, etc.
This is a very different thing than saying "I am a victim and these people are the reason for my problems" ? right, cause I don't think that's what I was saying.
