"This seems to be a pattern with several of us around here. Our WASs are harboring hurts from the past. They are not learning the true meaning of forgiveness."
The term I've learned regarding this is "Injustice Collector". And it seems to be more prevalent in women - sorry, not trying to be sexist here. My W is still angry at her mother for things that happened 40 years ago, and at me for something I jokingly said 11 years ago. She can recall arguments and thoughtless words between us that occurred years ago, and from which I had completely moved on.
Those issues run very deep and there is nothing we can do to even begin to help. It is completely up to the person suffering from these unforgiven hurts to admit they need counseling to deal with them and move on with their own lives.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
