You sound like a good dude, and to be honest, what you did is absolutely fine in the confines of a healthy relationship.
But your relationship is SOOOO far from healthy as is your W and possibly yourself.
Individual help and growth for you, and your W. Note the word INDIVIDUAL!!!
Than maybe you can get your M back on track.
It will take strength 9, but it is the best gift you can give yourself, your W and your M...
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012