YOU cannot possibly work on YOU, focus on YOU, or begin to deal with YOU........
UNTIL
YOU distance YOURSELF from HER.
I will tell you this.....you are in for some more BIG TIME PAIN.
The more you interact with her the more you will expose yourself to her craziness.
THINK about the basics......forget the diagnosis for a moment.
TIME.......no matter the SITCH.......they all take time.
If you are right and she is MLC, (IMO she IS) then this is going to take TIME......right.
What is your best course of action right now for YOU??????
BTW you can still do a forensic of what happened, what you did or did not do, what she did or did not do, the furniture, holding her back, her inability to be creative......all that
HOWEVER........
IT DOES NOT CHANGE YOUR COURSE OF ACTION RIGHT NOW......
Stay away, literally hide from her........no discussions, no dinners, no movies, no nothing........
OH, and no helping her move.......your too busy.
If you don't do any of this for YOURSELF, then please do it for your kids.
It is extremely confusing and hurtful when you guys all go to the movies and out to eat and then she spews in front of everyone that you guys are getting DIVORCED.
Think about it.......it hurt you......right????
If you want to have an affect on your M then the BEST thing you can do is stay away from her.
You Love her.......right??
Then LOVE her from a distance..........while the interactions "feel" good........they are damaging and prolonging her journey.
In Fact......IMO the interactions are PREVENTING her from moving forward in her journey.
SOOOOO,
Even if you will not do this for you or your children......
do it for her.
Hope this helps.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
