OW lives 2500 miles away, and given the legalities of custody and minors in both of our states, the soonest they could live together would be 2 years - and given her conviction for domestic assault, it could be even longer.
I'll respond to the rest later.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
