Hey Scared,

Sorry if I offended you there...

I just think that the sooner that you can detach from her, the better you will be able to respond to her BS....

I know this is hard, and I know you want to move past this stage as quickly as possible.

The things you NEED to know right now is that you cannot be afraid to do what is right for you and your children...

No matter what you hear back, no matter how much you feel it will 'push' her way from you...

I also want you to know that you really need to remove yourself , from whatever parenting decisions that you make right now.

It HAS to be about what is best for the children, not about what is best for you and the children.

The rule of thumb around here is....

It is not your job to foster a relationship between your MLCer and their children , it is your job NOT to damage that relationship..


At the end of the day, you will not always agree with the parenting style that your MLCer displays.

What you should do is ask....Is my child in any physical danger from the situations that they are placed in ?

If the answer is no, then the rest of it is a moral call that you are gonna end up smacking your head against the wall most of the time.

Is it right ?

Hell no it isn't , but it is the reality of the situation.

Please make sure the YOU do the right things on your watch, and watch for signs when things are not on your watch.....

This is a tightrope you must navigate constantly, and it will not end just because of a divorce....

Have you had any thoughts of counceling for them down the road ?