The blaming , the entitlement ( which never goes away while they are in the tunnel )
I do believe it was my fault that the Pope-mobile had a flat tire once....
So you saw her flip the "bicth switch" huh ?
That part is normal, it is part of the confusion that is INSIDE of her head.
You were having a normal conversation, she felt really at ease, and needed a reason to push away. That is what that anger is buddy, a way to push away, toward the 'decision' that she is moving towards.
Being 'in' the conversation that is going really well, isn't supporting her decisions.
Have you ever told a lie ? And needed to keep telling lies to keep covering up ?
Very similar stuff there.....
Her actions did not match her story.
That is why in DB terms, you always leave the conversation while things are going well. END THE CONVO FIRST....
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I made a comment about how we might want to keep our phones put up while we're with the kids and she blew up at me
That is exactly what she is pushing away from ....
Take a look at that and ask yourself WHY you needed to feel in control of that , at that particular time ?
Have you you always had a 'comment' ?
The normal interaction ?
Good job on that....
Letting her push a button on you ?
Look at the battles that are worth fighting ,pick and choose the hills that you are willing to die on.
