Hi reachforthelight, Im know how you feel also. My W has told me the some of the same things. Like the only time she is unhappy is when Im here, or sleeping in seperate bedrooms doesnt bother her in the least bit, but feels bad about the example we are setting for our son.I caught my W in an EA affair and she told me it had no effect on repairing our marriage She does still answer phone calls and text, and treats me with some respect, and we are still doing things as a family and at times thing seem normal. But she still says she doesnt Lv me as she should and she cant see it coming back and doesnt want to try or work on it. I too am a firm believer in God as is she, and in this crisis I have grown much closer to God.. This has been really tough also because she has worked at finding ways to interpret scripture to justify the way she feels, which is very disheartening as im sure you know. What I do know is that Im a changed man for the better and that Im praying for guidance at least 2x a day and for God to soften her heart also. Just like you, I know our marriage can be better than ever, given the chance, but i also believe God lets us make our own decisions and we can choose the wrong way of doing things. I also know God keeps telling me not to give up and keep loving her, although its not getting any easier. Keep praying and hang in there
