Sorry I missed your post. I hope things are well with you also. If you read my last post, you'll see that I'm still having an issue knowing when to stop and how to react/not react to my W's non-verbal cues.
During conversations with my W, I have a real need to respond/confront instead of listen/reassure. I'm sure I come across in a really direct, abrupt manner, which does nothing to reassure my W that she’s making the right choice by staying in the relationship.