My W and I spent most of the day painting our rental unit and then had friends over late in the evening for a bottle of wine and to get our weekly fix of HBO. While watching TV, I looked over at my W and could see the expression on her face begin to change.
By the end of the program, her mood had shifted and I could sense that something was on her mind. After our friends left, I asked my W what was bothering her. She said she didn’t like my tone and wouldn’t give me a definitive answer. I pressed a bit more, which led my W to remind me about what my counsellor had said about stopping a situation before it spiralled out of control. Our conversation ended on a sour note after my W had asked me at least twice to stop pressing her (I should have listened the first time).
There is a common theme that runs throughout my thread. Initiating a conversation with my W when either of us is tired does not turn out well. It would have been much easier to have just told her how much I love her and to let her feel her emotions, good or bad, in peace.
In the end, we both went to sleep without saying a word. I woke up at 4 AM feeling like crap, and here we are; not a good feeling.
