I don't know if this makes sense or is kind of just obvious and not worth mentioning, but one thing I think about with the ILYBINILWY is that the person saying that is not in love with themselves, blaming you, and using any of your bad behavior from the past as an excuse.
It's what I think BF is doing to me now - he always says I yelled at him for two years - maybe I did. But if he loved himself more and love was flowing through him (i.e., he was content and happy) it either wouldn't have bothered him, changed the dynamic, he would have walked away, etc. But now i think he uses that as an excuse b/c he is unhappy - rather than find happiness or what he's looking for right where he is - I'm the reason for his unhappiness.
Anyway, yeah, I think we all recognize that here - but just saying.
