Are you planning to get a satisfactory answer out of your H?
What would be "satisfactory"?
No amount of my W telling me that "nothing happened" when I found her under the covers of our marital bed with a "friend" who happened to be fully clothed would be considered a "satisfactory" answer to me. Nor the video I found of her laying in the lap of same gentleman...
No doubt she will forever deny any improprieties...
Do I simply assume I'm right? Do I simply assume the worst, consider it a deal breaker, and cut her out of my life?
Or do I "let it go"... truly... and work on re-building my trust in my W and building a better R and M?
Yes, in my sitch my W does not want to work on the M, so for me it's a moot point... Although if my W HAD agreed to work on the M, I was prepared to make every effort to get over it and accept it as some poor judgment on my W's part and move forward...
So what's the plan?
He has told you that he wants to work on your M? Are you planning on IC and/or MC or other efforts to do that...?
