RE: "I am at a point in my sitch where I need to let things rest and just be..."
1. What SPECIFIC things are you going to STOP doing to achieve that?
RE: "I must let my W go for now..."
2. How are you going to do that?
RE: "I need to stop having contact with my W in order to do this..."
3. What methods of communication will you be using from now on?
RE: "I will use this time to try to learn more about myself..."
4. How are you going to learn about yourself?
RE: "Who I am..."
5. Who ARE you? What are your values?
RE: "I will use this time to look at what I want for my life..."
6. How?
RE: "What traits do I want in the person who I am with..."
If you don't know who you are, what you want and where you're going, how do you expect to recognize yourself? Know if what you have is what you want AND even know if you've reached your destination.
RE: "I need to figure these things out in my head and in my heart..."
To do that you need space. LOTS of it. If you can afford it, go away somewhere for at least ONE week. Don't tell anyone where you're going -- especially your WW. Give your contact details to ONE trusted person only and explicit instructions to only contact you in case of a BIG emergency. Then sit your @SS down and figure out some of these questions.
A man without a plan is a man adrift in the ocean and waiting for a wind to blow him in whatever direction it blows. (And the wind never blows in a single direction constantly)
