So I'd like some feedback on my "going dark". We have S7, so I can't go 100% no contact, but I've definitely cut it down to about 97% no contact.

When he comes to pick S7 up, I have S7 ready and waiting, so there's no need for H to come into the house. When he drops S7 off, I chat briefly while he stands on the porch ("When did he eat lunch? What did he have? How did he behave?") and then tell him good bye.

Yesterday I had to text him to ask him where the Solarcaine was (I got an awful sunburn and H had used it last and not put it back and I couldn't find it).

He texted to say it was in X place, but if I couldn't find it, he'd buy me some since he was stopping by the market anyway.

I went back and forth, but it really hurt, so I texted "Please - I can't find it."

When he got here, he gave me the Solarcaine - I thanked him.

This morning when he picked S7 up, my Amazon Fresh delivery had just come. He offered to help carry it in and put things away but I declined - I said, "Oh, nah, I'm good."

I did send him an email last night - he had asked me about a week ago where we bought our headboard and I couldn't remember. He asked if I could look for the receipt and email him the info. Last night I finally got around to it.

Other than that, we've had no contact. I'd like to get it down to the point where it's *only* about S7, hopefully by next weekend.

However, he's still moving stuff out of here - in fact, I told him he could grab some stuff today when he drops S7 off. I plan to just not be around him when he's doing it, but I expect he'll have questions about "Do you mind if I take X" or "Do you want me to leave Y".

We'll see.


H: 39, Me: 37
SD: 18, S: 7
M: 9, T: 10
"I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11
Discovered online affair - 7/11