I have seldom contact with my H. Sadly, we don't even co-parent. At times, contact comes in spurts, only in the form of email. Then we'll go weeks w/o.
It's been almost 2 years since BD and H living with ow. I am detached enough at this point where I sometimes watch with mild interest, but no expectations.
I would suggest you read Imlin's threads. Your stories sound similar. Not to give you false hope, but she and her H are reconciled.