Beatrice,

My H's ow is also very threatened by the children and has behaved in much the same manner as your Xh's ow. H's ow does whatever she can to keep him from spending time with them. When she knows he is with the kids she texts him constantly. What is interesting is that he rarely answers her texts anymore while with the kids.

I also pray that our H/XH wake up in time to mend fences with their children. As Snodderly said, time is precious.