Reflection

[GAL Man]

Journaling (Again)

I called D14 on Monday eve, to find both kids were staying at some MF over night as W had to be somewhere for work early then next morning miles away. I think W was making a point as she didn’t ask me to have them. Then S12 stayed another night, so W only had S12 for 2 nights this week, hardly a chance to try and build relationships with him and make him feel more at ease at W’s place after the previous issues.

On Thursday I received a text from D14, as follows:

“I am so glad I am staying at yours this weekend. I’ve had enough of mum. Seriously, she has been embarrassing me in front of my friends for the last 2 days, and swore at me when I did nothing wrong. God she needs to sort herself out cuz otherwise I ain’t staying with her! x!

I sent I nice reply telling her how much I loved her and that she can stay hear whenever she wants. Didn’t know if it’s a typical teenager thing to start with, but had a long chat with her on Friday and she is OK. W had been going on again that people (or I) were making her out to be the bad person, and even said do D14 that I had been “brainwashing them”!!!! D14 told W that she can make her own decisions!

I explained to D14 that I could tell her/them a lot more, but I choose not to, to try and be the stable person through all this for them, and will not run their mum down. (I hadn’t actually said anything to the kids, plus, I hadn’t seen them all week either, and I haven’t spoken to our MF’s, well her friends for 6 weeks or so now, so don’t know how that one works!!!!)

D14 said W had been going on about money again, and that I have more than her and she is skint, so I calmly pointed out to D14 that W is away on a hen weekend which would most likely cost around £400-£500 all in, to which D14 sad, well she has money then, but chooses to spend it on herself, and not us!!!!! I let D14 come to this conclusion and didn’t say anything.

I also explained to her that I have to pay all the house bills on my own how, even W’s share of the mortgage, so I have less money, but the spare I do have I use for us to do things. D14 also asked if W has all the child benefit, which I told her the truth, yes, D14 said that wasn’t fair also, but I said I don’t mind.

So again, it seems that W is coming out with the negatives to justify what has happened, and playing the “poor me” card with regard to money. D14 isn’t stupid though!!!!

I told both kids that I no longer what to hear about W, only if it concerns them.

I had the kids from Friday eve, but had plans, so D14 stayed at her friends, and S12 at my parents. D14 said W called, asked how I was as usual and where I was, and D14 explained to W where they were and that I had gone out but didn’t know where, LOL.

When to see Harry Potter yesterday with S12 (not as good as the book, and a little disappointed) then they both had a friend stay over and we had pizza etc, and played games, so usual fun.