* trying really really hard to forgive OW so I don't live with hate in my heart
Hey TAMF,
Good to see you back on here. I take a different approach to that particular goal of yours. Others may disagree. I don't think the OW deserves your forgiveness and I'm sure she hasn't asked for it. So why give it? It's NOT Ok what she did especially given the fact that she knew the sitch.
HOWEVER, not living with hate in your heart is a very good goal. But not one that requires forgiving the OW. Choosing not to hate is a totally different thing. I wavered between hate and pity of the OW in my sitch. As things progress, it changes more towards pity every day because DAMN, my H is/was BROKEN as hell. I sometimes have to wonder why she even wanted him! I know he probably put on a show for her and didn't really show how broken he truly was but still, any woman that find that type of dysfunction as their "ideal" has something wrong with them as well. And that's why I end up more towards pity. Just my two cents.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
