When we talked the other day, she talked about how she felt like I needed to be on my own. Pay rent, bills, etc.. take care of myself. I don't get that.. I have paid rent and bills quite a bit this year. I have done so plenty in the past. When we first started living together, I was paying all the rent. I can't tell if this is part of her whole thing of not 'respecting' me because I wasn't working.. I don't know. I could probably drive myself in circles trying to figure it out.
Pure projection on her part. Her "feelings" not yours. Quit talking to her and when you do have to, make it short and sweet.
You can't do anything about the way she "feels". Focus on you and how to rebuild your self esteem. She basically has no respect for you right now. She is literally smoothing this over for herself, so she can justify her actions. It's not your job to ever punish her, but I think she needs to feel your loss.
Ask yourself, "what makes me happy?"
If she wants to walk away and continue a PA, then accept it. Be a man that KNOWS it is her loss and that there are 3 BILLION other women out there that will want to be with the new you.
All LBS's have something to own up to, but when you allow her to make you question yourself like this, you forget the fact she didn't have to cheat and she didn't have to walk away. Forgive yourself, cut yourself some slack, and GAL. Be someone that has self confidence and any woman would be a fool to leave.
You have to become the WAS now. Make her question why you aren't "being nice and THERE" anymore. Self empowerment, but not an excuse to be a jerk either. Just live your life like she's gone.
