My MLC Story - Help is Appreciated

[Thundarr]

Well, shockingly my W not only asked me to help her load the bedroom TV for her to take to her new house but asked me to go there with her to help her set it and her new computer up. This is not only the first time I've been invited to her new house but the first time she's indicated that I was even welcome. She had been having a male friend (who I had suspected was at least an EA, but now am not so sure) help her get the house ready and move furniture down there. But, it would appear that he is either unavailable or unwilling to help her further as I fully expected he would help her set everything up. I will note she is friends with his W too and I haven't noticed any communication between them lately either.

I'm torn as to whether or not I should help her out at this point. I'm always nice and cordial when she comes over to my house to see the kids and she has been doing a pretty good job of the same lately. I have only seen a couple instances of her being on Monster over the last week and overall she's been very pleasant. I want to communicate to her that I respect the journey she's taking and that I still love her, but I don't know where to draw the line about being used and letting her have her cake and eat it too. I do appreciate the efforts she is making to stay involved with the kids and see them every day, since at first she was going days at a time without even calling to check on them. The last two weeks has really been an improvement for her as she has come by for at least an hour or two every day and taken them both school shopping. She even brought groceries and helped clean up last night when she watched the kids over here.

She offered to take us all out to eat and to see a movie tomorrow "as a family" and didn't say that it was payment for helping her or anything. She has been wanting to get together like this once a week like we always did, and even mentioned she and I going to see a movie next week without mentioning taking the kids. I'd like to think she is afraid of losing the family and may be missing she and I going out as well while she is in this phase, but don't want to get my hopes up as part of me is terrified that things will get much worse before they get better. So far I can't prove there's and OM, and if I find out there is my feelings about doing anything with her may change. Help!!