A girl, as far as what she needs to do to come home, well that would be to be honest about things going forward. I dont need to hear anything about her A with OM. I want her to be honest about why and what was the cause. To this day, she can still not say what made her do this. But i did hear a little about it the other day. When she said, I just poured another drink. She is drinking daily, and doing drugs daily.
I had a good day with a friend who has supported me throughout this little battle i am having. She is an alcoholic, and she told me the first step towards bettering herself was when my wife told me that she was relying on alcohol to get through the day.
alone, you and me both are shocked about the way she has treated her kids. They wont forget this, and if she doesnt fix it soon, well she might lose them for a long time.
Country, the current situation is not working for me. I am very tired all the time and worn down. I drive kids to soccer 4 nights a week and i have been spending an hour and a half everytime she comes for a visit. This wears me out very quickly.
Currently, I want my kids to have both their mom and dad who love them and who are there for them every day. Unfortunately, i can only control what i do, not what she does.
I have decided that what is best for my kids is to have both parents under the same roof. No matter what the personal cost to me. I can deal with my personal issues with my wife. I can put on a smile and be happy around her. I have been doing it for 16 months. I truley believe this is what is best for my children.
If things take a turn for the worse for me, i will be much happier knowing that i did all that i could for my family and that includes my wife. I believe that once i calm down a little more, I will meet her for coffee and hear what she has to say. I will not let her come home unless whe is willing to go to an I.C. and work through some of her issues.
As for my marriage, i have decided that it is done. I need to let it fall to the side, focus on me and get my family back on track. If things are ment to work out, they will. But right now, this is taking too much energy from me and causing me too much stress.
