Hi dearme. I can totally associate with ur thoughts. One of my wife's complaints was I didnt plan time for us together, although being considerate of her work schedule and my sons need was a big reason. I would like to know how to do a 180 on this also when a I hear is "I want a divorce" and she doesn't want to spend any time with just me. Thanks for the post and hope for the both of us that you get some good responses