h started a business at a young age and let it engulf his life and why not he had a suporting girl friend by his side so there wasn't much he'd be missing in putting all his eggs in to that basket.
over the years that business took more and more from him and the girlfriend? well she grew more and more saddend by the fact that there was less and less time for her and alot of empty promises...she knew he was a great man..she knew he was of strong charector, he was honest and goal oriented and she admired his courage and determination to go after his dream despite the fact that so many (his family did not aprove of him leaving college to start his business wich was his dream) didn't approve...she stood by him...help him when she could (be it through physical labor before he aquired employees, helping with paper work before computer, family and friends helping him aquire customers...heck my neighbors even let him borrow equiptment before he could afford to buy his own) and accepted what he had to offer the r wich was less and less as time went on.
She began to believe the tales of h becomming a rather emotionless person as a result of all the pressures and strains the business put on him...he had to deal with things and so learned to just let it all roll off his shoulder.
he began to give less and less to the r and no matter how she pleaded and explained what would become of them if no effort was put in he gave excuse after excuse or empty promise after empty promise of next month or next season being better, less busy etc.
So she began to believe and accept...when others would comment on their life (or lack there of) she would say...."we don't do alot or spend alot of time together becuase h works hard...he works hard so we can have all this that you come and enjoy" and she believed it.
then one day she learned she had been living a lie....
all while she was wanting h to be alive and present in the r trying to accept that he was just busy and tired from work and that he was doing it for them...she learned it was not so...he had another...at first she thought ok...so take what you've learned and apply it here..and that worked for a bit until the h left...couldn't stop with the other...caused devistation...etc etc....then came home (after 6+months) and things were better...he did give the time and put in the effort both with his w and with his children..but eventually again it became tired, busy, next week, next month etc and again the w tried to be a support and believe...but she knows better this time...she knows he's capable he just doesn't want to.
