Here I am again...

[Here Again]

Well today was not bad, all considered. Getting ready to move into apartment, and W was helpful with advice on how to help it not smell (don't you wish you could live there? :-)). She also said that she loves me, but isn't sure if it's enough to get over everything. That could be good or bad, but I'm choosing to try and be positive now.

[WCW]

HA, DB101 = no R talks.
Did you respond to your W? Just a simple "I understand" is ok.

Have you researched your state laws about moving out of the marital home? are you giving up future 'rights' to the kids?

I know it's to give space, but moving out is not always the best overall.

[Here Again]

I'm honestly not worried about the kids and how that might work in the future.

I took the kids home yesterday and we all ran some errands. W went with D to do some more shopping, and when they got home I was ready to leave. She said I might as well stay for dinner, which I did. It was strange, but awesome that I was invited. Way to early to tell if it means anything, but it seems like a positive step. Now trying HARD not to push too much...

[Psych77]

Here - I know it's hard to deal with guilt and still care for yourself, hard to respect her valid feelings without sacrificing your respect your own position (without which there is nothing left to rebuild).

I don't have any particular wisdom to offer. Just understanding and my best wishes for healing for both of you.

[WCW]

Glad to hear you don't have to worry about the kids.

Time and patience are your friends.

Good luck.

[Here Again]

Well its been a while. The trip away went pretty well. Afterwards though the next few days lots of anger and D talk. The last few days have been better. Being invited to stay at the house, do a few things with W and kids. Whenever I go back I clean the house, a kinda 180, although I have always done a lot. I was not spying, but noticed Not "just Friends" by the bed. Is anyone familiar with this book? Is it a positive or negative IYO?

Thanks!

[Here Again]

Spinning.... mostly bad lately. Went from conversational chatter yesterday to cant wait for D. And me and my continuing R talk and ILY... I know better...

[LearningPatience]

Here,
Not Just Friends is (IMHO) an *excellent* book. It looks at affairs from the standpoint of all three parties and is not judgmental at all. I would recommend the book for you also. Hope this helps.

[Here Again]

Thanks! i may pick it up.

[Here Again]

How do I stop texting ILY???