My sister's mother in law passed away last week. Sad time for all.

I took some time to watch my brother in law. He is back home. The bomb was dropped over 4 years ago.

He has become an amazing father, but, I know that he did not do the work he needed to do. He has some major childhood issues to deal with.

I am concerned that the passing of his mom will have him running back to the tunnel.

My sis and he are friends. They are coparenting. They are kind to each other, but, there is no physical connection.

I spoke with my sister about it. She says she just lives her life and gives him space.

I think he is afraid to initiate anything because then he will have to deal with his affair and what it did to my sister.

Of course, I am not sure. Maybe he just doesnt feel the same about her.

I know how much he likes her and respects her.

As I watched him this week, I saw how much my sister helped him through this difficult time.

He came up to me and hugged me and said, B, I love you. I hope you know that. I said, I did and I loved him,too.

He said, I know you are so disappointed in me.

I said, A, I cannot judge anyone. But, I am sad for what you lost and that you hurt my sister so deeply.

He said, B, I will never forgive myself for that. Never.

A, I said, that is where you start.

So, I feel so badly for these two people who loved each other so.

May they find a way back to each other. I do not know of two people who
deserve happiness more.